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ON MODELING (I don't mean fashions)

"We must be the change we want to see in the world."
- Mohandas Gandhi

You may not intend to change the world but how often have you tried to get someone else to change?

That employee who always gets things in late - the spouse/significant other who has a habit you don't like - your coworker who doesn't pull his/her weight - add your own list here.

Model change yourself. Do or say things differently -maybe both. Don't expect that modeling change is a one time thing. Modeling change is a process not an event.

People will respond to your changes. Here are a few ideas.

* If you have an employee who doesn't always do a great job, instead of complaining, try saying, "you're better than this, I know you have the ability to do a great job." It may not work immediately but it represents a shift in your approach. If they need training be sure they get it.

* Instead of a "telling" approach, ask a question that requires more than a yes or no answer and then shut up and listen. You may learn something that could help make positive changes. People who are listened to feel more valued.

* If you don't usually do it, send a handwritten thank you or commendation. It takes little time but means so much. (E-mails don't count here.)

* Do something special for your spouse or significant other. It doesn't have to cost much. One lovely flower- a favorite desert - a book. Those who are thoughtful usually find it reciprocated. (By thoughtful I don't mean being a doormat. That condition requires other changes on your part.)

"Make small commitments and keep them. Be a light not a judge. Be a model, not a critic. Be part of the solution, not part of the problem......" - Stephen Covey

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